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Freedom does not come FREE!

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Did you know that you were born free? That you were not created to be bound by your hands, your feet nor your mouth! You were created to fly high and soar over mountains! You were created to stand out! To Shine! And most importantly to GLITTER! What do all of these things have in common? They are things that should not be hidden in the dark. They should be set out for all those to see and for the world to appreciate.  Why then do people lose their sparkle? Why do nuggets of gold grow tarnished and are thrown to the side in reckless abandonment?

So many things in life cause our souls to tarnish and our hearts to grow hard.  Many are caused by the circumstances of life, the pain inflicted by others and the pain we continue to cause to ourselves. We cause ourselves PAIN? YES! ABSOLUTELY! We cause ourselves pain when we choose to not move on, to take ourselves out of a bad situation, when we don’t listen to that small still voice inside of our heads and when we don’t listen to the wise counsel of others.  Pride often gets in our way and hinders our advancement to the mountaintops.  What then shall we do?  In order to break the chains of circumstance, betrayal, lies, deceit and misery, we need to look inwards to see what we need to do in order to be the catalyst to be our own fire that will melt that chains that entrap us.  WE can be our own blacksmith and WE can hammer away at the iron that holds us down and prevents us flying like HE created us to. You were meant to soar, not slither nor glide.  Soaring takes accuracy, wind, speed and endurance. Most of these things you need to be able to do on your own and the rest comes from HIM.

As I have been walking on this journey, I learned so many things about myself and realized I had so much to unearth! I had been underground for 36 years and it was going to take some effort to be fertilized and grow.  It was not going to happen overnight, but it was going to be a process.  A process of reflection, insight and hard work.  I was going to have to dig down deep, if I wanted to reap the rewards.  Do you have to work hard? NOPE…not at all…..not if you want to keep doing the same thing over and over again….expecting the same result (see what I did there).  Did you read the title? Freedom does not come free! It comes at a cost and often it costs us our pride and the things that we thought were most crucial to our existence.  Once all of those have been stripped down and washed away…then and only then can we truly be free.

Freedom has to be constantly worked on, you cannot become free and just leave it at that.  You have to constantly turn inward and ask yourself if you are becoming bound to someone or something.  You have to be honest with yourself and honest with others.  Freedom can be a dirty business and often we need the help of others to get clean.

I know that for some people the unspeakable has happened to them. That they have fallen to the hands of abuse (physical and mental), lies, corruption, torment and pain.  However, you can still be FREE! Who the son sets free is free indeed! You can choose to take that initial step into freedom! Come join me on the journey to freedom! Will it be easy? Nope…but it’s so worth it.  To see a world that glitters in gold and when you can find the gold dust amongst our fellow weary travelers is an amazing sight to see. I am a firm believer that our journey is not in vain and that it gives us authority to speak to others who have been or who are on the path that we are or have traveled.  Your journey is not in VAIN! It’s the roadmap that others need, in order to find their way to the top of the mountain.  You hold the key! Will you choose to turn it or will you wear it around your neck as adornment and use it as an excuse that you rings in the ears of all those around you? It’s your choice! You can either choose freedom or choose to stay shackled! What will it be? What will be your freedom’s song? What will you sing from the mountaintop? It doesn’t matter what tune! Because not matter what, it will still be a beautiful melody that calls those around you home.

Sing with me! I AM FREE…..but the question lies in whether you will choose to be!

Darkness does not stand a chance…if you have light.

This weekend represented so much to my husband and me. It was some much needed time together and it also represented VICTORY! Many times as I laid in a heap of tears, anger, fear and confusion, I wondered if my life would ever be the same again and if my marriage would survive this wrecking ball because you have to be destroyed in order to be rebuilt.

My husband often asked if we would ever be able to go out again, plan, have adventures and travel. The truth was I didn’t know. I had no idea how I would come out of this, but God promised me I would and I held onto that promise. Because that promise was the only thing that kept me going and that promise extinguished the flames of darkness that smoldered in my brain every minute of the day. Some days I had to remind myself of that promise every minute, every hour and sometimes every second. I had to hold onto it because I was afraid if I let go, I would fall deeper into the abyss of nothingness and despair.

My husband would occasionally speak his fear because he too was afraid of me letting go and watching me fall down the rabbit hole. Even if he didn’t speak it, the fear and worry was written all over his face. He had to stay strong, but his body often gave him away. Fear engulfs everyone around you like a title wave, but the beauty of the wave is that it takes everything with it out to sea. You can either choose to get lost in the ocean or let it strip you clean of everything. Shame, humility, fear and embarrassment. It will either bring you to your knees or sweep the grains of sand right from beneath your feet.

The absence of fear never really exists because fear does serve an intended purpose….if we let it. It stains all the areas of weakness that are present and allows us to see where it’s creeping in and how we need to stop it in its path.

For me control was the big catalyst of my fear and the fear of losing control stoked my anxiety.

I heard God telling me that I was trying to control things that were beyond my control. He controlled the wind, the waves and the seas. I could not control everything. He told me that giving up control was my biggest vice and it would be my greatest victory. I could not control the sun or the moon..only he could. The earth rotates because He told it to. Life was not up to me and not everything could be planned. It had served me well, but it was time to let it go.

Control would will strangle you like a serpent and leave you dead in its wake. You cannot control people, you cannot control things and I could not control Him. He had a plan and a purpose, but I just hadn’t seen it. He created the heavens and the earth with a purpose and did the same with you and me. Victory would be mine, but patience was key.

I needed to delight in the small victories and the miracles that had been happening around me. They were not in vain, but were there to lead me to victory.

I needed to lean on those around me because my weakness gave them strength. Strength to falter, strength to make mistakes and strength to ask for help. He was glorified through my weakness because he sent people to help me. I needed to open my eyes and heart and..shut my mind off. My mind is an amazing tool, but it was destroying me at that moment. My heart needed to lead the way and the door needed to be opened.

There would be no more have tos or obligations…only joy. He did not create me with guilt..only love. I had shut love off a long time ago because it was easier then getting hurt. I need to love with my whole heart and not just part of it. Love was a gift and a great power. When I truly love it emanates from my body and the people around me feel it. That’s true love. Sustaining love. Soul quenching love. I needed to go out and love out of joy and not obligation. Love is not forced. It is the holiest of gifts. A gift not everyone deserves to the fullest extent. It was time to change my mental framework and view myself like He did. Like my husband did. He created me and he did not create a mistake. I was to love myself, like I loved others. I was to choose joy because heavens gates are opened with love and so are our spirits.

When you love out of joy, that shows your true leadership. A forced love never shines. It was time to shine my light and let my heart lead the way. Darkness does not stand a chance in the light of love. It slithers and hides because it’s blinded by the glory.

Heaven was not formed out of guilt, but out of His love for mankind. A father loves his children like no other and I would feel this love again. He promised me that I would twirl and dance and laugh until my sides hurt because it was music to a father’s ears

He delighted in my joy, my happiness and splendor. Love would grow like a fire being stoked by the wind. I just needed to take down the barriers that were blocking it. Once I did this I would see His glory.

Glory was not meant for heaven alone, but the people on earth. My family had taught me obligation and guilt. I needed to unlearn it. I needed to learn to love myself without guilt or condemnation because I was teaching my children to love themselves. My children could not do this if I did not love and nurture myself. Mind, body and spirit.

I had abused my body no longer. It could not go on. I needed to heal in order to love again, but healing would come from the inside. I needed to love myself like he loved me, not because He has to but because I bring Him great joy! Not for what I do, but because of the person He created me to be. I needed to love others in the same way.

  • Choose truth instead of guilt, shame and condemnation.
  • Release my old self and look towards my new self.
  • Sever soul ties with people and events.
  • Picture guilt, shame and condemnation and handing them over to God. Asking God what he wanted to replace them with.

The Wilderness is a GIFT from God

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The wilderness is not meant to kill you, but challenge your beliefs, your lies and your faith.  The wilderness provides a nurturing environment for those that inhabit it, but it can also be our worst nightmare.  The harder we hold on, the harder it is to make it out.  The wilderness provides a platform for miracles and if we don’t stop to appreciate them, they will extinguish like the light from a fire fly.  Miracles happen all around us and everyday we miss them, because we are too busy with the “what next” and don’t appreciate the “here” and “now.”

Miracles are meant to be shared to give HOPE to the HOPELESS and belief to the nonbelievers.  For God is the fisher or men.  Those who walk in faith will witness his miracles and revel in their beauty.

Life is full of miracles, but we need to take the time to see every flower He has created,  bird that flies and creatures under the sea.  Everything serves a purpose and was not created in vain.  He has a plan for the creatures of the world, just like he has a plan for our lives.  A plan for prosperity and abundance.

Often you need to lose yourself, in order to find it.  I have been lost for a long time and I have finally made my way back home.  Father God has been patiently waiting for me.  Patience is a gift a parent has, but its not easy when our children struggle, but its in their struggles that they become STRONG.  STRONG of heart, STRONG of mind and STRONG of faith.

Life has a purpose and a plan.  The heavens are open and are waiting to delight in your splendor. For YOU are HIS greatest treasure.  You have been crafted out of the finest wood.  Meant to weather the storm and for people to marvel at HIS creation.

The wilderness provides so much beauty and so much strength.  If you can make it through the wilderness, you can make it through anything.  Everything has a purpose and every person serves a greater plan.  A plan for greatness and gratitude.  He has loved you from the day you were born and he will love you all the days of your life.  For you are special and created to do great things.

Accept your destiny and listen to His words.  Be deaf no longer.  For the kingdom of heaven awaits, as it meets earth.

Trials are not meant to break you, but to make you WHOLE again and bring you back HOME.  Where you were always meant to be.  Be deaf no longer….be blind no longer!  Open your heart to the  heavens, because heaven has been waiting for you.  You were lost, but now are found.  Were blind, but now see.

Live with your eyes wide open and see the splendor of His majesty.  For He is the Lord your God.  Your Father, your Redeemer and your true Love.  He will not leave you lost, but you need to look inside yourself in order to be found.  He can only guide you! You need to finish the journey on your OWN!

The landscape has been harsh, but you WILL SUCCEED! Climb on out of the wilderness and marvel at where you came from and where you are meant to be.

Because it is on the mountaintop that we can see how far we’ve come and what lays before us.  The wilderness isn’t so dark, once we learn to climb towards the LIGHT.  The eternal light.  The light that has been glowing in US all along! It has flickered for awhile, but the wind has died down and now it’s glowing strong! Strong enough to light the way and to help others see the path.

KEEP your light burning strong and stoke the flame with HIS wood.  For He is the way . the truth and the light.  He will always guide you home!

Are you in a wilderness season right now? Have you ever thought that the wilderness can actually be a blessing in disguise? It is when we are weak, that we are made strong! 

The hardest part about walking through the wilderness is that life is still going on around you .  You are lost in the forest and you feel like life is passing you by.  Rest assured you are meant to be where you are and you just need to follow the path back home. You may stumble! You may fall! However, HE will be there to catch you and be your guiding light back home.  

Often during trials and tribulations we question, curse and blame God.  We don’t want to walk through the wilderness because it’s dirty, ugly, smelly and dark.  However, those are the reasons we NEED to walk through the wilderness.  You heard me NEED! Life is not about comfort and making things easy! That’s a LIE! Yes He is here to bless you, but it’s when We are lost..that we are truly found again. 

If you are living a fruitful life there will be many wilderness seasons and that is ok! Because that means you are alive! You are GROWING! You are not just EXISTING, like so many people do because they do not want to feel pain! Pain has a PURPOSE and it’s purpose is to keep our feet moving, so we don’t settle down and stay awhile.  Keep walking up that mountain and see the splendor from the mountaintop! You won’t regret it! 

My Favorite Color is Polka Dot

Today, I was reminded how important struggle is and why we must face it head on.  I was on a mountain bike “date day” with my husband and my body was tired from the week and when my body gets tired, my brain takes over.  It tells me things like….you can’t do this…you aren’t good enough…just quit….everyone is looking at you! I started to succumb to these thoughts and the ride just got harder.

As I rode along I started to curse in my head and second guessed every move that my body already knew how to make.  I started making mistakes, picked bad lines and became frustrated.  I kept looking down as I rode and as in life where you look, is where you go.  So if you look down, you go down and if you look ahead, you continue to go forward.  However, I kept looking down.  Cursing…hitting rocks and sliding.

I just wanted the ride to be over, I did not want to deal with the suck.  That’s right I said it…SUCK! Sometimes life sucks, just like a bad ride! As I swirled deeper into my pit of despair in my head, so did my ride.

At one point I heard God say, “run the race set out before YOU (Hebrews 12:1)!”  How many times I have heard him utter these words.  Why do we as humans put ourselves down? Why do we compare ourselves to everyone around us? Why don’t we give ourselves grace? Why don’t we realize that what we see is facade and everyone around us is running their own race.  I heard God say, “concentrate on your race”…….”your achievements”……”no matter how small.”  As I listened to these words, my body began to intrinsically takeover and my mind took a back seat.  I listened to God, I didn’t take my own path and I began to enjoy what I was doing.  So WHAT if I had to get off my bike and walk….so what if I didn’t hit every line the right way….so Fing WHAT?! That’s right I said…Fing because sometimes it’s not all butterflies and glitter in my head!

I kept thinking about all the times I would compare myself to others and how I was embarrassed to show my true self.  I didn’t think that my two selves could coexist and that people would accept me.  My whole life I have been a split personality between a girl who loves to get dirty, ride bikes and find frogs… to a girl who loves tulle, polka dots and a good glittery twirly dress.  It took me years to realize that both these girls can coexist in the same body and I say “girls” because I think it’s so important that we never lose our inner child.

My husband once  asked me what my favorite color was and I told him that I didn’t have one.  He said that’s not possible! Everyone has to have a favorite color! I told him that I liked polka dots, so polka dots and glitter were my favorite colors.  He told me polka dots were not a color and I said…WHY NOT?! Why can’t they be a color? Why do we let people tell us what things are and what they are not? Why do we let people tell us who we are and what we won’t or will become? Repeat after me! NO MORE! No more will I listen to the world’s ideals and stop my inner girl from twirling in her bright, sparkly and tulle filled dress…as she smiles and looks toward the sun (without shoes of course)!

As I ended my ride I continued to push myself and I  thought….we tell ourselves that life is supposed to be comfortable, but I believe that is a lie that the enemy wants us to believe, so we don’t reach our full potential.  For it’s in our uncomfortability that we grow.  The enemy is afraid of our strength and true power. We get so stuck in our well worn rut, that we can’t grow and become paralyzed.  Paralyzed to what we can become and paralyzed to what we can be.  Don’t get me wrong…getting out of the rut is Fing hard, but so worth it! It might be the greatest ride, that you will ever have…until the next adventure!

God is always acting like a loving father in our hardships.  Teaching us to persevere and trust in him.  He is teaching us discipline.  A loving father wants what is best for his children and often he needs to rebuke them.  For a stone does not stand a chance against the rough waters because it eventually will grow smooth.  We are being shaped by our heavenly father and often it is in our uncomfortability, where the biggest change is taking place.

During this past year I kept hearing God say that I needed to start embracing the miracles laid out before me! That it was time to start embracing my destiny.  He would never let me fall backward, but only forward.  Everything that is worth something is hard and sometimes you need to embrace the SUCK in order to get to the finish.

What rut are you currently in and how will you get out? Sometimes we can do it on our own (with God’s help) and sometimes we need someone to help us! Remember everyone is running their own race right next to you! Don’t look left, don’t look right, don’t look down, but straight ahead.

What SUCK do you need to embrace and how will you get to the finish line?

The Mile of Glory

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The mile of glory is the last mile of the race.  It’s the time where we thank God for all that he has given us and for everything yet to come.  It’s the hardest part of the race because you can feel the finish line and you are exhausted and tired.  It’s the final push and often it’s when we have to overcome our biggest obstacle…ourselves.

Our mind is telling us to quit, but our heart says to keep going.  Its our heart that gets us through the race and the spirit of God speaks to it.  Telling us to enjoy the moment, revel in the accomplishment, praise and acknowledge the hardships.

The mile of glory is not meant for us alone, but for our redeemer and heavenly father.  Who has been with every agonizing step along the way.  He never left us or forsake us, but was with us every step of the way.  He was the gentle wind when we were hot, the downhill draft when we were tired and the cloud cover we so desperately needed.

He is our biggest cheerleader and he does it the entire race.  He tells us to run the race set before us with grace and perseverance because this race was meant for you alone and no one else.

It is your race, your challenge, your heartbreak, you soul changing moment.  It’s your moment to share with him and glorify all that he is and all that he will be.  When the race is finished you will thank him again for all that you accomplished because you will look back at all the struggle and have confidence that with him you can do anything because he calms the stormy seas and brings peace to those around him.

Your mile of glory does not have to be an actual race! For me it was both! In order to cross the finish line you have to bear down and charge forward.  You might stumble, you might fall down and you might even throw up! But guess what?! You are building character along the way! 

The starting gun has fired! Now it’s time to run…..and run the race that has been set before you! Not someone else’s race, but yours alone! Be steady, be nimble and always get back up! For it is the things that are the hardest, that make us stronger! 

I’m afraid of the dark…

lighted candle

My entire life I have been afraid of the dark.  Terrified. Frozen. Heart beating as I stand there in the emptiness of night.  There is something about the dark that is both calming and frightening, all tangled into one velvety dark mess.

Am I afraid of the boogieman?  Maybe.  The creatures that lurk under the bed? Could be.  To be honest I have no idea, what makes it so scary.  Maybe it’s the idea of being all alone in the absence of light.  Light gives our eyes the ability to see and our body the nourishment it needs.  So what then is the darks purpose? Is is to bring rest? Rejuvenation?  Or maybe just the ability to quiet your mind and come in contact will all that encompasses the world around you.

On my honeymoon I went black water rafting in the glowworm caves in NZ.  The guide explained that the absence of light for too long of a period of time, could drive a person to insanity.  Insanity?! Not just a little crazy, but insane.  How can the dark have so much power and what control did it harness to be able to control our minds and bodies?

In my darkest days, I saw no light.  I laid there with the inability to move, eat, sleep or even interact.  I was a velvety dark mess.  My mind raced.  My body ran a marathon each day.  I could not see the light.  The absence of light caused me to spin into a dark deep “pit.” A pit that was so deep, I had no idea how to get out or save myself.  I fell deeper and deeper down the rabbit hole.  I thought I was going insane.  I thought this was the end.  Thoughts of suicide entered my head and nested to make a home.  I tried to see the flicker of light, a flame or even the dim light from someone’s lamp.  There were days where I called those chosen few a million times a day.  Just so I could borrow some oil from their lamp and their truth could set flame to the oil they shared.  I took more in this season then I could ever give back.  It was a season of taking because I could barely take care of myself.

I asked God if I was going insane.  Why was he doing this to me and I was frightened that I would never come out of it.  I was the lucky one.  I held onto the flicker of hope that I held in my heart, that this journey was not in vain.  That I would come out of this and cross into the promised land.  No one could help me out.  It had to be me.  I had to climb, struggle and break free of all that held me down and that which was strangling the life out of me.  I could not be pulled free, but just keep borrowing the oil from the lamps around me.

Often it was just me and God.  Alone for hours and days and months.  Just us.  He heard my cries, my screams and my fits of terror.  He did not abandon or forsake me, but gave me the tools to break free and journey another day.  The weaker I grew..the stronger I became.  Not physically, not mentally, but spiritually. I never knew how much I would need God, until I stood on the precipice of insanity.  That’s when Hell becomes real and the hopes of Heaven become the grains of hope that you hold onto.

I was the lucky one, because I was able to eventually see the light.  The absence of light drove me to the edge of insanity, but I chose to look towards the light.  The light of those around me, the light of what this journey might serve, the light of what it meant for my family and the promise of never falling backward, but only moving forward.

I chose to hold onto the light.  What will you do? You do not have to do this alone! Seek help.  Grab a map and a hand.  Borrow some oil and light your own lamp.  The absence of light is scary, but if we never had darkness…we would never be able to see the light!  For it is in our darkest hours, that we are made strong and it is in the darkest night, that the stars become our compass home.

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I will live in fear no longer!

black and white black and white depressed depression

 

I was born into a family where fear gripped every inch of our lives.  We were fearful of the thoughts of  those around us and the words they might say.  We feared God and his heavy hand and the punishment he might lay down before us.  We feared each other to the point where we didn’t share our heart’s desires and it left us in a state of suspense…not moving forward or backwards.

I was taught to fear the dark and all that rested in it.  I was taught that the devil was just behind me and that if I looked into a mirror at night, I would see him.  I was taught that dead relatives would come down from heaven and haunt me.  I was taught that if I made a mistake and was punished,  God was laying down the law.  I was taught to love out of fear, do things out of fear and avoid things out of fear.

The enemy ran rampant in our lives, whispering his lies on a daily basis and sitting back to watch the havoc he created.  Fear flowed through my family like liquid magma.  It burned everything in it’s path hardened the hearts of those around them, as it slowed down.  Generations of my family have parented and lived in fear! But no MORE! I will no longer couple with fear! I release it’s bondage over me and my family.  Fear will be no more! It will grip us no longer. We will live in the promised land and will delight delight in all of God’s glory.  Fear will own us no longer! We will be free! We are FREE! I am free! The chains have been broken and I have been set free.  The door is open for me to walk through and God has outstretched his hand to help me over the threshold.

There’s a world out there I never knew existed and as I stand on top of the mountain with Him, I can see all that I have been missing.  I’ve been set free! My God and savior has rescued me.  Amazing Grace has always been my heart’s song.  God would give me dreams that I was a singer and Amazing Grace would be the song I would sing.  My heart’s song is coming into fruition and I will make it the song of my family!

Fear, I release you! I no longer will join you! Father God, fill it’s space with your Glory and Majesty! “Free at last. Free at last.  Thank God almighty.  I am free at last!” No longer will I see God as my persecutor, but my loving Father, who loves me to no end and always has… since he knitted me in my mother’s womb.

We are all meant for great things! Sometimes it takes a fall, in order to fly! We need to beat our wings like the butterfly emerging from it’s slumber.  Breaking free from it’s cell and flying high, with the wind of God beneath it’s wings.  Trusting God for the wind to fly and the nectar to eat.  Not worrying about tomorrow, but delighting in today.   For today is a gift and tomorrow isn’t promised.

What are you afraid of? It’s time to release it to God.

Fear is the cement that binds our feet and creates our own tomb.  You cannot live in fear..you just merely exist. JUMP! FLY! SOAR! and SING! 

Say it with me! I am free! I am free! I am free! I have always been free! Now is the hard part…how will you live in freedom and make sure that you allow yourself the freedom to fly!